In this day and age, there are so many dating rules that keeping track of all those dos and don’ts can give you a massive headache. On the other hand, there are some relationship habits that we all consider healthy and kind of romantic which can actually be damaging and toxic. Therefore, if you and your TS date are starting to get serious, here are some things you should steer clear of.
Calling her your everything
Although every woman wants to hear that she is everything to her partner, she doesn’t actually want you to mean it. Saying this suggests that the rest of your life doesn’t matter and that you would be nothing without her. Doesn’t that sound pathetic and needy? It is not romantic and it is surely not healthy, so don’t say that your significant other is your everything, please.
You are always in touch
Having a good communication is the key to a strong relationship. However, constant communication is not okay. Talking on the phone ten times a day and texting back and forth from morning till night is not a healthy behavior. You need to have your own lives, go out with your friends and spend time apart from time to time. Giving your relationship room to breathe will strengthen your bond, increase your trust in one another and give you more things to talk about.
Making her responsible for your emotional well-being
She is not your therapist and it is not her job to be there for you 24/7. You are a big boy and you need to learn how to take care of yourself. Blaming your partner for your emotions is selfish and immature and will ultimately poison your relationship.
You probably want to maintain a balance in the relationship, but keeping score is not the way to do it. If you are one of those ‘I will do the laundry if you vacuum’ kind of couples, stop it now. This kind of behavior only leads to inevitable fights, because sooner or later someone will forget to do ‘their part’.
Tiptoeing around your partner is exhausting, and not being able to be completely honest with her is not a good sign. We are not saying you should behave like a jerk, but if you are sugar-coating everything just so that you don’t hurt her feelings, you are not doing her a favor in the long run.