Believe it or not, many women are interested in dating a widower. And why wouldn’t they be? Nowadays, guys are so scared of commitment and everything revolves around open relationships, so a man who had a great marriage can be a real catch. You already know that he isn’t afraid of commitment, he is able to be in a successful monogamous relationship and work through problems.
So, if you find a widower who is ready to move on and love again, why not give him a chance? After all, he is not that different than any other guy who once was in a serious relationship. Will you have to pay attention to his emotional availability and watch for warning signs? Of course you will, but to be honest, that is the case with every man you would normally date. So, if you are ready to date a widower, here are some things you should keep in mind.
You are not competing with his late wife
We can all agree that she was a large part of his life, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be, too. Just be open-minded, face the problems as they come along and keep the communication channels open.
Allow him to grieve during holidays and anniversaries
Some days will be especially hard for him and you should do everything to support him. Be there to listen to him or leave him alone if he prefers the solitude. We understand that being with someone who grieves for another woman is not easy, but keep in mind that this doesn’t mean he cares any less about you.
Don’t ask too many questions about her
You probably want to know everything there is about her but let him do things at his own pace. Don’t ask a bunch of questions about her. When he is ready, he will open to you and you will get to know him better.
Don’t think you have to be anything like her
Maybe he loved her cooking or her laugh, but that doesn’t mean you should start doing things the way she did. You are a unique person with your own set of qualities, so don’t be a copycat.
Watch out for red flags
Although you can be in a successful relationship with a widower, there are some warning signs you should look out for. For example, if he talks about his late wife too much, keeps her belongings all over the house and still has her picture as a screensaver, maybe you should let this one go. He is probably not ready to move on, so don’t waste your time on someone who can’t give you the type of relationship you want.